Conscious Cunt

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ahhhh it’s so fucking rad! a blog all about cum? RIGHT UP MY ALLEY

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somewhere in between my spiritual awakening and now, i’ve come up against the monogamy paradigm and honestly at this point i call bullshit to it. 

but WHERE DO I GO FROM THERE? has been my journey over the past couple months. i feel like i want to be in a committed long term monogamish relationship, but now that I have been exploring that idea, it just doesn’t seem enough. luckily i have a partner who is willing to at least let me explore my relationship species and figure out how i show up in relationships, and luckily i have felt comfortable engaging the idea of having two boyfriends. but there are soo many other factors that i’m beginning to see, and I just feel a bit overwhelmed with the HEADSPACE of open relationships/polyamory dating styles. 

you see, I don’t know if I really fit into the “primary partner and me”/”fixed partner and me” model. this is where, for example, you and a partner agree to always check with each other before having sex or dating anyone else. as reid mihalko puts it, “i’m going home with THAT one”. I have thought and felt about this model and I feel like it seems safe to me but also limiting. I feel as though I could feel safe and loved and fulfilled spending the night or going home with any of two or three close partners. 

but where this gets tricky is when and how much. up to this point, I’ve viewed my “primary” partner as the head of my sliding scale of relationships with men. (i’m not dating ladies right now). 

this partner has expressed to me that he does not want anyone else to be above him nor does he want anyone else to be above me. I get it. I do. But this model of poly does not really seem to fit my love style. I want so badly for my primary partner to be encouraged and happy about my other “dating relationships”, and I would not even object to him being involved in those relationships. 

I just don’t know if we are on the same wavelength with how much importance we are willing to place on our other relationship pursuits. he up to this point has also expressed to me that the closer he gets to me, the less he wants to pursue other women. and that is just NOT the case with me. the closer I get to him, the more I want to share that love with other people. it just seems natural to me. 

this is a rant, and I’m mostly just getting thoughts out there. I guess I feel like I don’t want to fit into a specific poly relationship style, but it would be helpful for the people that I will be possibly dating to really know where I stand so that they can say yay or nay to my way of doing things. yea? thoughts? inbox me. 

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how have you used sex as a healing tool? how has that shown up in your life?

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Anonymous asked: how do you make yourself cum?

lately (for the past 6 months or so) i have been lying on my back and squeezing my PC muscles, thighs, hips together and apart before even touching my genitals. then i will lubricate a finger or two and press into my clitoris so that i can feel my cervix underneath it. I will use my clitoris to massage my cervix for some really intense pleasure waves. I have been experimenting with inserting fingers into my vagina, and enjoying the natural wetness. I also have been experimenting with massaging my perineum while inserting fingers into the entrance of the vagina. there are lots of ways, but usually clitoral/cervical stimulation is where i will “end up” in a desire to orgasm. 

what about you?

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sometimes it feels like walking along the edge of a cliff with a roaring ocean below you when you decide to allow your emotions to flow through your sexual expression. 

i think it’s very important to first have the safe space created to express emotions with a loving partner. if you are going to start crying, you want to have a secure partner who understands emotional expression for what it is: a wave in the ocean of feminine energy. 

having simple things in place like tissues, a warm blanket, and a pillow are essentials for me, but if you want to incorporate other things for a safe sob sex session, make those needs known and implement them into your space. 

things that really work for me when sex turns into sobbing:

• having safe words that me and my partner have agreed upon previously to use to leverage the wave of pain or sadness. 
• hugging very deeply and closely
• silence
• looking into my partners eyes and letting them really see what i am experiencing
• having lots of time to ride the wave of emotion out, and not stuffing or stifling the sobs

it’s one of the most bonding experiences to be able to cry in the midst of sexual energy. it’s healing and the best thing to do is just really allow, allow, allow. 

here’s to crying a little or a lot with your loving sexual partner…i know i am embracing it rather than pushing it away. 

~CC

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outbacksylvie asked: I have found strokeing my clit directly and slowly is always the best

oh my dear slow clitoral strokes have been my go-to lately for intense solo orgasm. 

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waterandapagan asked: You know I would love to talk to you about what wisdom my genitalia has to offer. We shall discuss in person?

PLEASE haha EDUCATE ME

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8circuitspub asked: In response to a blog from March about sex energy manifestation: do you know much about or practice the use of sigils from chaos magic? They're generally charged through intense experience and the most basic and accessible way to do so is through focus on your sigil at the point of orgasm during masturbation.

intellectually i know about sigil charging but have not practiced it yet, thanks for the reminder though as i think i will quite enjoy the process :)

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What does it feel like to live in your sexual power? Activated in the sacral chakra and consciously aware of this power inside of you? 

Here’s a few ways to feel sexual, no matter what your situation of the day (and yes, this means outside of explicit sexual experiences)

1. Breathe into your navel. Your sacral chakra houses your sex energy. Breathe there, and imagine air being absorbed into your pores and belly button, ovaries, hips, pelvis. Then concentrate on breathing into your cunt/cock and feeling blood circulating throughout these regions. 

2. Begin to ALLOW this energy to be and don’t try to do anything with it.

3. Ask what it has to teach you. Very often the answer will be one or two words, simple, direct. Tap into your WOMB WISDOM mamas. Papas, I can’t speak from direct experience what your unique masculine penis wisdom feels like, would anyone like to talk to me about it ?

You can do this at work, out for dinner, shopping, anytime where you are out of your “element” per se. For example, I do this practice at concerts to feel more connected to my personal power and to maintain my groundedness when around a lot of people. I do it to hear what direction I should take, and it is always right, and always good. Your sexual wisdom will never let you down. EVER.

I was at a concert last night and began feeling a thin veil of separation between myself and those around me, so I went to my womb instead of my monkey mind (love you still though, mind) and it led me straight to my HEART, I began to feel waves of warm smiles and felt the beauty and softness of people embracing around me. I felt the wisdom of the dancers and musicians on stage, I felt it all. I felt confident to dance, and to let my body go where it wanted to go. 

In short, breathe into your womb. So simple, you’ll know you’re doing it when you feel at peace and you can breathe low and uninhibited. 

Talk to me, it’s been a while. 

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rawprincess asked: Nice to stop by! Saw you've been making greeeen juice. Way ta go.

all the goddesses drink green juice…you included :)

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So what the hell is “natural” birth control? 

It’s taking the hormone disrupting part out of contraception. It’s being aware of your own fertility cycles. It’s knowing when you ovulate. It’s owning your reproductive system’s natural intelligence. 

Most would follow the fertility awareness method. In this method, a woman can track her cycle from the first day of menstrual flow to the first day of menstrual flow. She can track her BBT (basal body temperature) to monitor temperature fluctuations throughout that 25-50 day period (yes, menstrual cycles can get up to 50 days). After you ovulate, your temperature spikes a few degrees for about 3-6 days. When your temperature goes back down, you are no longer ovulating and you are safe to engage in unprotected sex (or protected if you are protecting yourself from STDs). 

Besides monitoring ovulation through temperature spikes, the other most commonly used method of fertility awareness is measuring cervical fluid consistency. On ovulation days, cervical mucous is an egg white consistency, very stretchy and clear. After ovulation, it should become white and less stretchy.

I know this is sort of radical to think about. “You mean I don’t have to be on the pill, use an IUD, or wear condoms?” Possibly not. This method is only workable when done right, and it is my understanding and my personal experience that daily tracking has to be done for at least 2-3 months to figure out when you actually ovulate. I’m currently using an iPhone application called Sympto. I get up every morning (well, most) and take my temperature orally. I check my cervical fluid or lack of and record that as well. And then I go on with my day! 

I don’t know for sure yet if this method will work for me. For now, I plan on using condoms still, but I have never and will never take any birth control orally nor will I have an IUD inserted into my cervix. It is my personal conviction and I’ve always felt this way. When I became sexually active I actually went to the gynecologist to receive some BC pills. I took them home and stared at them for a while, but could never force myself to take them. Something in me knew that there had to be a better way than to wreck my beautiful hormones.

I think the natural birth control method is one that I will continue to work on and implement for the rest of my life. I will use it for birth planning as well. There are so many benefits, but the biggest is just feeling empowered in knowing my body’s rhythms and knowing when my body can and cannot produce a baby. I had no idea prior to researching natural birth control that I can literally not get pregnant for 2/3 of my menstrual cycle.

Conscious ladies and mindful men, please do the research and look at all your options when it comes to birth control. And please dear Lord send me messages about your experiences good or bad with birth control pills, IUDs, condoms, the natural method if you use it, and fertility awareness. I’d love to hear from you!

*mwahs and meows*

-CC

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1. Drink fresh green juice. Cucumber, Lemon, Spinach, Green Apple is simple and perfect.
2. Take Cod Liver Oil 
3. Take Probiotics
4. Sit under the Sun
5. Wear Coconut Oil on my skin

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Today I’m going to hold a brief discussion on the topic of abstinence. Abstinence does not necessarily mean you are a virgin who is saving “it” for marriage. Abstinence is a choice to not be sexually active for a period of time for a specific reason.

I’m currently in a time of conscious abstinence. This means I am choosing not to have sex. Right. I could have sex easily if I wanted to, but I’m not. Why the hell not you ask me?

Primarily to increase my sexual intelligence and shape my sexual identity without the influence of a partner. I took a period of time a few months ago to clear out old sexual energy from past partners and that allowed me to increase my ability to explore my sexuality in a very personal and intimate way.  You could do what I am doing now (abstain) if you want to develop more sexual intimacy with yourself.  

After I set my mind on not having sex, I knew I was going to have to dig deep into my womb wisdom and figure out why. I knew that it wasn’t right for me at the time, but I had no idea that this new level of awareness would be gifted to me as a result. So why should you abstain from sex? Same reason you would fast- to receive spiritual guidance.

Abstaining also helped me rejuvenate my yoni. Yoni=vagina in Sanskrit.

It also has helped me to feel sexier, and I feel like my lady chemicals are really strong as a result.  That doesn’t mean having lots of sex leads to a low attraction factor, what it does mean is that periodic ellipsis in sexual activity, to my understanding, is excellent for strengthening your reproductive/sexual prowess. 

So abstinence can happen over a long period of time, like six months or a year, or it could happen on a more short term cycle like a day or two out of the week, or maybe a week each month.

Abstinence in this way, periodic and shorter in duration, is also a biologically encouraged process in women. You see, women are infertile for most of their menstrual cycle, and only around ovulation do they have the ability to carry sperm up into the uterus. The time when this happens is when a woman not wanting to become pregnant should abstain from sex. A perfectly designed, built in birth control for women, and a perfect time to draw into oneself and rest alone, without sex.  

Abstaining from sex could make you feel stronger, sexier, and have more ownership over your sexuality. Speaking from experience, I’ve found that abstinence has led to a huge growth in my personal self-pleasure and this is preparing me for more pleasurable partner sex, when I choose to start having sex again. 

Stay tuned for more about natural birth control through fertility awareness for the purposes of not getting pregnant.  I’ll tell you what I’m currently experimenting with , and give you some resources to educate yourself about fertility and natural contraception.

*Mwahs and Meeeoows*

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Hello beautiful sexual beings! I know its been a bit long (2 weeks?) since I finished up my 21 Days of Self-Pleasure project, and I have been totally missing this community! I couldn’t wait to write this post, because, well, my life has changed because of what I’m about to talk to you about!

Manifestation- know what it’s about? Well according to metaphysical/spiritual teachers like Esther Hicks, we can choose to attract certain things into our lives by simply setting our intention and getting out of our own way. People choose to manifest things that either are in alignment with their highest good or not. It’s really that simple!

When I became familiar with this concept, I also started to become familiar with the concept of Sexual Energy Manifesting. This might be a little strange to hear, but several super successful people including the author of Think and Grow Rich -Napoleon Hill- have used the method I’m going to suggest to you today. 

Basically, it is as follows. Direct your orgasm to affect an area of your life in which you would like to manifest something. 

I do it usually like this. I set my intention before masturbating (I won’t talk about manifesting with a partner right now) to direct the energy of my sexual fire into my third eye chakra. This is just the area above the eyebrows, that controls your ability to intuit, perceive, and receive inspiration from God. I imagine the feeling of my intention, and how it breathes throughout my body. Then I keep that word in my consciousness, at the forefront, for the entire session. 

At the moment of orgasm, I allow this energy to flow up my spine and hit my third eye. I say the word again, and relax into the feeling. 

And then I trust. I trust that whatever I have chosen to manifest will come to me, because the Universe is so so ready to give me everything I need. 

It’s been a beautiful and workable practice for me over the past two months, and I’ve managed to manifest some incredible new friends and a new job in a short amount of time using this practice. 

It is amazing and I don’t think I will ever stop. I usually have been setting my intention to manifest “abundance” but you can substitute that word with love, beauty, peace, wealth, or anything else. I would just keep it to one word, so that you leave the hows and whys up to the Universe. You will be amazed and your expectations will be surpassed. Trust me! 

Has anyone used this practice and been able to manifest abundance and beauty? I would totally love to interact with you.

Send me a note here!

*Mwahs and Mreooows*

~Conscious Cunt

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